I Got this in a Forwarded Friday Email .... Like that.. read on!!!!
Funny yet awesome. Amazingly true to the core.
(This was doing rounds on the internet)
BEING IN TWENTIES - SOMETHING
It is when you stop going along with the crowd and start realizing that there are many things about yourself that you didn't know and may not like. You start feeling insecure and wonder where you will be in a year or two, but then get scared because you barely know where you are now.
You start realizing that people are selfish and that, maybe, those friends that you thought you were so close to aren't exactly the greatest people you have ever met, and the people you have lost touch with are some of the most important ones.
What you don't recognize is that they are realizing that too, and aren't really cold, catty, mean or insincere, but that they are as confused as you.
You look at your job... and it is not even close to what you thought you would be doing, or maybe you are looking for a job and realizing that you are going to have to start at the bottom and that scares you.
Your opinions have gotten stronger. You see what others are doing and find yourself judging more than usual because suddenly you realize that you have certain boundaries in your life and are constantly adding things to your list of what is acceptable and what isn't. One minute, you are insecure and then the next, secure.
You laugh and cry with the greatest force of your life. You feel alone and scared and confused. Suddenly, change is the enemy and you try and cling on to the past with dear life, but soon realize that the past is drifting further and further away, and there is nothing to do but stay where you are or move forward.
You get your heart broken and wonder how someone you loved could do such damage to you. Or you lie in bed and wonder why you can't meet anyone decent enough that you want to get to know better. Or maybe you love someone but love someone else too and cannot figure out why you're doing this because you know that you aren't a bad person. One night stands and random hook ups start to look cheap. Getting wasted and acting like an idiot starts to look pathetic. You go through the same emotions and questions over and over, and talk with your friends about the same topics because you cannot seem to make a decision. You worry about loans, money, the future and making a life for yourself... and while winning the race would be great, right now you'd just like to be a contender!
What you may not realize is that every one reading this relates to it. We are in our best of times and our worst of times, trying as hard as we can to figure this whole thing out. Send this to your twenty-something friends... maybe it will help someone feel like they aren't alone in their state of confusion...
We call it the "Quarter-life Crisis."
All you have to flaunt is a Visa Stamping…. (no on-site trip yet…) And worse still… that visa is not for US. All your friends who went for MS or MBA in US talk of Detroit, Michigan, Texas, etc as if we have learned Geography of US in 7th Standard. And worse still… the MS/MBA guys come back for vacation in December for 15 days, invite a get together in Malaka Spice (where you dream to have project party once…), ask about your job, salary with some kind of sympathy and finally they pay the bill And worse still… they tell all about the “adventures” in US which are not possible to do in India due to “cultural mismatch”. And worse still… when you are not able to find a girl for yourself, mom-dad forcefully arrange some “kande-pohe”. These US friends come for 15 days, finalize the wedding, date over phone for an year, come and marry off in next December. You are still hunting. And worse still… invite you to marriage and ask if you would be coming alone. And worse still… you remember that you were among the toppers in 10th, 12th and Engineering, while these guys were average or in same league as yours.
… What happens when your engineering female classmates are all slowly getting married … … When every damn girl you talk to has a bf … … When you put on a little weight, thanks to special cheese burst pizzas by dominos … … When you are too old to date a college girl … … And when your ex (who is getting married too) adds you in facebook and looks hot as a summer day… … … … you just realize that you are a victim of quarter life crisis … :)
Hi All… I wrote some part of this post yesterday and some part today… so Publishing it Today….
Today I completed one full year in Pune… a year back on 14th June 2008 I landed on Pune Airport… I shifted from Ahmedabad (Gujarat) to Pune(Maharashtra) for better future and for growth. I was in Ahmedabad for almost 3 long years and I enjoyed my stay there… had some lifetime experiences and learnt many lessons of life. Shifted Jobs and stepped into many roles… one of them was of entrepreneur and it was great experience… Worked with Pulkit and started some ventures, Now I have my experiences and lessons which I learnt and Pulkit is doing really great in his ventures now. I don’t know why but I came back to this rat race, I hope soon I will be able to break these shackles and step out of rat race and pursue my heart… Entrepreneurship is not an easy pie to gulp it tests your nerves and believe me who are rock solid in their ideas and focused only they can survive… people like me come back to this material world as they have some different thinking towards life and they want to do many things in life.. they do day dreaming to achieve what they think.. but are scared of more than one things, they are not cowards but just they can’t live upto their own expectations and can’t stop comparing their life with others.
Someone told me, “You are living for yourself or for others”.. I think we all live for others and for ourselves, thing is we don’t admit… take a test… first rule is you are not going to talk about this to anyone else and you will be Truthful and won’t lie… now stand in front of a mirror….in which you can see yourself from head to toe… stand naked and look directly in eyes and ask questions like what you want from life… it is like kind of self evaluation… don’t be modest… think what you dream of, think what you like to be, think of what luxury you want in life.. and blah blah blah…. You will find your answers… We all live in material world and we want attention from others, we feel confident when people give us such looks, it satisfies our ego !!! and there is no harm in satisfying ourselves.
I have heard people saying, I don’t care how I look and what people think of me. Okay no problem, tell those people to be truthful to themselves only no one else on earth for once and look into mirror. They will also compare… So that is human psyche… not a problem.
So People back to the topic that I have completed my one year in Pune, I shared what I learnt in Ahmedabad, I met many nice people few of them are Pulkit and his family(for which I feel they are my family too), Tushar Anjaria, My first and only Girlfriend who dumped me in less than a year, Raghav, Firoz, Sathish Bhai, Imran Bhai, Chintan Vyas, Geetika Garg, I-link people, Vivek Joshi, Jasdeep, Sahil, Gaurav, Hitesh Desai, Ketan Solanki, My sister shifted then there so her family Colonel Uncle, Manish Bhai ( breakfast cab guy outside IIM-A), Ashish Verma (my college time buddy shifted to Ahmedabad)… there are hundreds of more people… I am lucky that I met them there…
That was Ahmedabad as I spent 3 years there… I came to Pune and main reason of coming to Pune was growth and career as well as my Friends who were already in Pune and they told me Pune is really really great place.. last one year was really nice for me… I had my lessons with me so I thought not to repeat my mistakes so I was extra cautious on professional as well as on personal (remember I was already dumped) front… I thought to concentrate only on work and do nothing else.. first few months I enjoyed a lot as when I shifted to Pune that time it was monsoon season and my friend vikas was pioneer of one Biking Group Bladerunnerzzz and I joined him on one ride… and it was great experience altogether.
By the time I shifted Pune it was like recession started… or say it was coming in front with full swing and impact was seen …. Then soon Lehman Brothers Collapse and other things one after another….Mean time I was also going through one complete culture change as I had spent 3 years in Ahmedabad and in Ahmedabad it is conservative culture where as in Pune it is altogether Fun and Open culture… I tried to restrict myself and was successful in that….Okay as per some previous posts it shows that I was passing through some turbulence but it was just a turbulence not my destination.
Then came the Recession Blow on me… I was asked to perform in my current role else go home… It was like question on my authority and my work… I knew I was not bad at work but due to some reason, some people put me on back foot. I took it as challenge and thought if ever I have to leave then I will first prove them that I was not wrong, my performance was not bad.. it was a poor management of resources and lack of knowledge in specific field in which I work. So I worked hard (yes hard coz if I had worked smart then there will never be a situation to work hard)… and sustained the recession blow… and continuing with my organization…
That time I learnt my corporate lessons and now implementing in current project and role… That time I got calls from other companies as well but I thought to stay with current organization for little long as I don’t have reason to change my job again…
Tomorrow on June 16, 2009 I will complete my 1 year in my current organization… okay logically I have completed but I joined my current organization on June 16, 2008.
I don't know how much I am successful to make my future better, I believe I will stay as is until I come out of rat race... I Came from Ahmedabad to Pune for better future.. initial days I felt i did a terrible mistake as I stayed in Ahmedabad for 3 years and I was attached to the city and people out there imotionally and I felt Nostalgic for initial few months.. I am lucky that I have friends here so they were here with me for my change...Change is Inevitable and Change makes you strong and helps you in Growing Up. Hope I will stay Little Longer in this Beautiful City
I wish myself all the best for my work and my Job… Wish me people that I give always an honest efforts in what I do !!!